3 Simple Ideas for Reinventing Your Sense of Self-Love

3 Simple Ideas for Reinventing Your Sense of Self-Love

So maybe you already have a daily yoga practice, or you make sure to feed your body with nutritious foods, or you make sleep a priority in your life. Perhaps you even do all of the above and more!

Despite the incredible benefits of engaging in self loving practices like some of those mentioned above, it’s true that they can begin to feel less engaging over time as they become automatic habits that are simply part of your routine. This, of course, is not necessarily a bad thing!

The goal of self-love after all is to make it a habit. This however doesn't mean you shouldn’t switch things up once in a while and try something new.

Here are just a few simple ways that you can add on to your existing self-love practice and give yourself a little extra dose of novelty.

 

1. Spoil yourself with small, healthy rewards more often.

The easiest way to strengthen your sense of self-love is to treat yourself to small rewards that you don’t get to indulge in very much on a regular basis. Whether it’s because of time constraints, lack of resources, or the simple fact that too much of a good thing can make it bad, these are the things that make you feel good and are relatively healthy for you—but are best saved for special occasions.

Sit down and make a list of some of the rarer small ways you can reward yourself. Schedule them into your calendar so that you treat yourself to one at least every week.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Have an extra piece or two of dark chocolate for dessert
  • Take a 30-minute soak in the tub after a long day
  • Set aside some time to color in a stress-relieving adult colouring book
  • Buy a cute new piece of yoga clothing that you could really use
  • Give yourself an at-home hair mask treatment, facial, self-massage, or manicure/pedicure

 

2. Replace some of the time you spend on passive activities with growth activities.

Passive activities are those mundane daily things that just need to get done no matter what (commuting to work, laundry, brushing your teeth, etc.) as well as those unproductive things that you feel compelled to do out of habit (checking social media, watching TV, reading the news, etc.). Growth activities encompass hobbies and activities that you love to do just for the sake of doing them and that challenge you in some way.

So, for example, you could take a passive activity like the time you spend tuning into Netflix every night and use that as a trigger to first spend 5 to 15 minutes of that time practicing guitar, or teaching yourself a new language. You’ll feel good about yourself when you’re done, and committing to a short amount of time makes it hard to say no.

 

3. Slowly start adopting a minimalist mindset in certain areas of your life.

The more you let go of the things you don’t really need in your life, the more time and energy you’ll be able to devote to the things that truly matter to you. Here are some ways you can start using minimalist practices to increase your sense of self-love:

  • Delete apps from your mobile device that constantly suck up your time
  • Spend 5 minutes a day removing or cleaning up clutter from around your home
  • Experiment with outsourcing a task like laundry, cleaning, bookkeeping or some other time consuming task for at least for 30 days
  • Make a list of your favorite 3 to 7 meals you love to eat and stick with preparing those only for at least 30 days

Minimalism frees up your physical, mental, and emotional energy so you can start valuing yourself more than material things and egocentric achievements. Loving yourself need not be anymore complicated than that!


6 Mindfulness Tips for Letting Go of What No Longer Serves You

6 Mindfulness Tips for Letting Go of What No Longer Serves You

To reestablish a sense of balance in your life, letting go of all those bad habits you’ve picked up over the past year (or possibly years) is the only way to make more room for all the good things you know you should be embracing.

Look toward Mother Nature this autumn season to find inspiration in everything that retreats inward, falls to the ground, and dies. It’s not the end—just the opposite, in fact.

To facilitate the opportunity a new beginning, you must learn to let go. Here’s how.

 

1. Notice Activities and Behaviors That Make You Feel Good

The real key to creating good habits lies in taking notice of how good you feel when you do something or behave in a particular way. Note that this doesn’t mean it won’t also feel challenging—it can still feel good while part of you resists it.

Don’t ignore your resistance, but be sure to place your awareness on the good. The more you do this, the more naturally inclined you’ll feel to start making your new good activity or behavior a regular part of your life.

 

2. Notice Activities and Behaviours That Make You Feel Bad

Similar to building good habits, the key to breaking bad habits also lies in your awareness. Whether it’s smoking, eating junk food, watching TV, procrastinating, or any other bad habit—you don’t necessarily need to force yourself to stop it as long as you commit to being fully aware of what you’re doing, while you’re doing it.

Awareness alone is enough to motivate you to make the choice to stop doing it—because awareness shows you how harmful or unproductive it really is. Likewise, notice your tendency to want to cling to your old bad habit, as if wanting to escape yourself.

 

3. Journal About Both the Good and the Bad

At the beginning of your day, ideally first thing in the morning, take some time to journal about the person you want to be. The activities and behaviors that make you feel good are what will get you there.

At the end of your day, reflect on your day by journaling about the activities and behaviours that made you feel good and not so good. Doing this right before bed will help reprogram your subconscious as you sleep so you can do better the next day.

 

4. Visualize Yourself Growing from Embracing the Good

You can do this anytime, but just like journaling, visualization can often be most powerful first thing in the morning or right before going to bed. Simply close your eyes and picture what your life will be like if you kept doing all those good activities and kept embodying all those good behaviors weeks, months, and years from now.

Visualizing the effects of all those good things can motivate you to keep pressing on, even when times get tough. When you know great things are to come of it, you won’t want to give up.

 

5. Visualize the Freedom You’ll Achieve from Letting Go of the Bad

You could certainly visualize what your life might look like if you kept holding onto all those bad habits, but psychology research has shown that negative motivation rarely ever produces long-term results. While it can help you avoid unwanted effects in the short-term, long-term success relies on focusing on what you do want—not what you don’t want.

So visualize how much better your life will be weeks, months, and years from now without all those bad habits. Imagine the freedom, the happiness, and the potential for growth. This is all you need.

 

6. Practice Self-Compassion When You Slip Up

Mindfulness is simple, but it’s hard to keep up all the time. Most people find it impossible to kick a bad habit overnight, and you shouldn’t expect perfection.

Be kind to yourself when you fall back into your old ways. Simply take notice of what you’re doing, forgive yourself, and do your best to act or behave positively in the present.