5 Steps to Practice Letting Go

5 Steps to Practice Letting Go

We all get attached to certain things that make life comfortable and predictable. We hang out with the same crowd, we maintain certain lifestyle habits, we stick to the same schedule, and we have personal items we think can’t live without.

Attachment is great if comfort and predicability is all that we want out of life. But if we dig deeper into ourselves, most of us will discover that this is in fact not what we want.

We all want to grow and to reach our fullest potential. That’s why we’re all here.

Learning to let go of what we’ve unconsciously attached ourselves to throughout the entirety of our lives is a skill that can be developed. The more detached we remain from thoughts, ideas, beliefs, people, items, and desired future outcomes, the better off we are at reaching our fullest potential.

It just takes practice. Here’s how you can start.

1. Pick an area of your life you wish to improve.

Whether you want to improve your love life, your health, your finances, your career, or some other area of your life, just pick one that sticks out the most to you right now. It could even be something more specific, like a career-related goal or level of intimacy in your romantic relationship.

2. Write out exactly what you want.

You can write a paragraph, jot down some quick notes,or  use a bullet point list to write out the details of what you truly desire to improve in that aspect of your life. For example, if you’re looking to improve intimacy in your romantic relationship, you could list out the exact signs of physical affection you desire, the small ways you might show each other appreciation in your everyday lives, the activities you’d love to do together more often, ideas for how to make your sex life better, and so on and so forth.

3. Skip the intense planning process.

This seems counterintuitive, but to truly practice letting go, you have to avoid getting caught up in the planning or the "how-to" process. Instead of looking at what you wrote down in the previous step and putting a bunch mini goals on your calendar or coming up with a detailed blueprint comprised of 10 different habits you need to adopt, try just focusing on the current moment. What are you genuinely interested in exploring or doing right now that might move you an inch closer?

4. Read your list of wants every morning and every night.

This is how you slowly reprogram your subconscious. By reading your list (or paragraph) of what you want every morning when you wake up and just before you go to sleep, you begin the process of hardwiring those desires deeply into your being. You won’t need an intense action plan that you’ll have to force yourself to follow because your subconscious will naturally guide you to do the things you need to do to achieve those desires.

5. Surrender to faith.

The most important part of this entire process is the ability to genuinely be okay with whatever happens while knowing that somehow, your desires will be achieved. This doesn’t mean daydreaming all day and never doing anything. It simply means recognizing the intuitive feeling inside of you that gave rise to your desires, knowing that the Universe will reward you with them as long as you stay true to yourself, and then doing whatever feels right in the moment.

Letting go allows us to flow along with life so we can learn more effectively and make adjustments as we experience new things. A rigid action plan may sound great to the logical, thinking mind, but your subconscious unfortunately doesn’t work that way.

Let go, do what feels right in the moment, flow with life, and eventually achieve your dreams. It’s as simple as that.